Comments on: H4 Wives http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/ Once a Desi. Always a Desi. Sun, 14 Mar 2010 18:07:42 +0530 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Prince Bollywood Movie http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-12157 Prince Bollywood Movie Sat, 06 Mar 2010 08:39:05 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-12157 That was a pity sounding news to hear. Being in solitude is like suffering in the hell. Hope these women are saved. That was a pity sounding news to hear. Being in solitude is like suffering in the hell. Hope these women are saved.

]]> By: Aparna http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-11171 Aparna Thu, 11 Feb 2010 20:43:00 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-11171 I've come a long way from being on H-4 to F-1 to H-1 to a EAD holder and today, this post made me realize that I haven't thought about my H-4 days for a long time! Now with work and everything, I wish I could go back to my H4 days..LOL. I outsmarted the US govt my finishing most of my Masters under H-4 ( in state tuition and all) and then changed to F-1 in my last sem. If there is any immigration Karma, it'll come and bite me later I guess. BTW, of course folks on H-4 can get a drivers license. I’ve come a long way from being on H-4 to F-1 to H-1 to a EAD holder and today, this post made me realize that I haven’t thought about my H-4 days for a long time! Now with work and everything, I wish I could go back to my H4 days..LOL.
I outsmarted the US govt my finishing most of my Masters under H-4 ( in state tuition and all) and then changed to F-1 in my last sem. If there is any immigration Karma, it’ll come and bite me later I guess.
BTW, of course folks on H-4 can get a drivers license.

]]> By: pk http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-10385 pk Wed, 20 Jan 2010 22:17:56 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-10385 I am a single girl and I came to US to do my MS and now I am working on H1B visa. It was not an easy ride, to manage tution, then job hunting and I do not have any relatives here. So it was all by myself, I am managing my life and I am happy about it. I do not understand why can't H4 visa holders just go to school here and then work?..Afterall, thats what their spouses did in most cases. Aftreall, if they had a life i India, it means they are independent enough to live the same life here. It is a struggle to manage life here in US as a single person with immigration, job etc. At least for H4 people, they dont have to worry about paying for groceries, rent, keeping job etc. Their husband take care of it. I think they should be happy with it and if they are not happy with it, then go and find some school, some company to sponsor your visa, instead of complaining about the system. I agree that the system is not very friendlly towards H4, but it is not like they are never ever going to find work. You guys just need to stop blaming system, feeling sorry for urself and get moving. Also I dont think anyone is sacrificing anything here. You wanted to come to US, so you came. I dont think anybody forced you to quit your job in india and come to US. It was your personal choice. There are lots of opportunities in this country if someone really wants to work/study and you just need to look around to find it. I am a single girl and I came to US to do my MS and now I am working on H1B visa. It was not an easy ride, to manage tution, then job hunting and I do not have any relatives here. So it was all by myself, I am managing my life and I am happy about it. I do not understand why can’t H4 visa holders just go to school here and then work?..Afterall, thats what their spouses did in most cases. Aftreall, if they had a life i India, it means they are independent enough to live the same life here.

It is a struggle to manage life here in US as a single person with immigration, job etc. At least for H4 people, they dont have to worry about paying for groceries, rent, keeping job etc. Their husband take care of it. I think they should be happy with it and if they are not happy with it, then go and find some school, some company to sponsor your visa, instead of complaining about the system.

I agree that the system is not very friendlly towards H4, but it is not like they are never ever going to find work. You guys just need to stop blaming system, feeling sorry for urself and get moving.

Also I dont think anyone is sacrificing anything here. You wanted to come to US, so you came. I dont think anybody forced you to quit your job in india and come to US. It was your personal choice.

There are lots of opportunities in this country if someone really wants to work/study and you just need to look around to find it.

]]> By: Freeheart http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-10157 Freeheart Fri, 15 Jan 2010 18:50:22 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-10157 I just happened on this site..I am on H4 because I had to quit my job to be with my husband and could not find a job in time.I did it for our life together. I just want to say that I appreciate how many of these women or men sacrifice so much.It is not easy to understand how difficult it is unless you are on the same boat. There are so many out there who callously dismiss them saying they knew what they were getting into. Yes you are right ,but that does not make the heart any less lighter or lonely knowing that you are an accomplished professional yet you are not allowed to contribute .Even studying is not cheap here ,not everyone can afford it. And just because a woman is not working doesn't mean you should have kids.what kind of twisted logic is that!! Hang in there all of you H4 wives and Husbands ,do not feel small ,for most of you ,your sacrifice is your admission of love to your spouse and your contribution to your life together much more than money or any material thing.Hope you find comfort in that and I hope that you find your silver lining much sooner than later. I just happened on this site..I am on H4 because I had to quit my job to be with my husband and could not find a job in time.I did it for our life together.
I just want to say that I appreciate how many of these women or men sacrifice so much.It is not easy to understand how difficult it is unless you are on the same boat.
There are so many out there who callously dismiss them saying they knew what they were getting into. Yes you are right ,but that does not make the heart any less lighter or lonely knowing that you are an accomplished professional yet you are not allowed to contribute .Even studying is not cheap here ,not everyone can afford it. And just because a woman is not working doesn’t mean you should have kids.what kind of twisted logic is that!!
Hang in there all of you H4 wives and Husbands ,do not feel small ,for most of you ,your sacrifice is your admission of love to your spouse and your contribution to your life together much more than money or any material thing.Hope you find comfort in that and I hope that you find your silver lining much sooner than later.

]]> By: RAJINDER http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-10151 RAJINDER Fri, 15 Jan 2010 17:10:17 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-10151 Nice suggestion by dinesh and suitable forum should take up with INDIAN FOREIGN MINISTRY the employment issue raised in the post, which very aptly describes the plight of such wives. Thanks for highlighting important issues Nice suggestion by dinesh and suitable forum should take up with INDIAN FOREIGN MINISTRY the employment issue raised in the post, which very aptly describes the plight of such wives.

Thanks for highlighting important issues

]]> By: dinesh http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-9565 dinesh Thu, 31 Dec 2009 18:59:08 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-9565 Thanks for such an informative post. What then such h4 wife can do ..... to take care of her partner and also develop/learn skills while at home, which will help her to settle in life comfortably and that also becoming a source of income later on. In case it is decided to stay there for a number of years , best way might be to go for further studies. Such explained issues/facts should be brought in the knowledge of Indian Govt. for taking up the matter with American government to allow h4 wives also to work in USA according to their skill/experience and educational/technical knowledge/background.Once initiated, Success will definitely be achieved,let some one take the lead and I wish them good luck... Thanks for such an informative post. What then such h4 wife can do ….. to take care of her partner and also develop/learn skills while at home, which will help her to settle in life comfortably and that also becoming a source of income later on.
In case it is decided to stay there for a number of years , best way might be to go for further studies.
Such explained issues/facts should be brought in the knowledge of Indian Govt. for taking up the matter with American government to allow h4 wives also to work in USA according to their skill/experience and educational/technical knowledge/background.Once initiated, Success will definitely be achieved,let some one take the lead and I wish them good luck…

]]> By: ss http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-5186 ss Fri, 31 Jul 2009 22:59:32 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-5186 Hey gr8 post.... Lot of people say that why come to US on H4 if you know that you cant wrk...but there are situations I have seen where the Husband has to move to the US a year or 2 after the mirrage so what is the wife suppose to do...stay back and work in india and have a long distance relationship for god knows how long.....I think if both husband and wife r in IT profession its really difficult for each one to keep their jobs with out any obstacles thats just the way it is...frustating .... Hey gr8 post….
Lot of people say that why come to US on H4 if you know that you cant wrk…but there are situations I have seen where the Husband has to move to the US a year or 2 after the mirrage so what is the wife suppose to do…stay back and work in india and have a long distance relationship for god knows how long…..I think if both husband and wife r in IT profession its really difficult for each one to keep their jobs with out any obstacles thats just the way it is…frustating ….

]]> By: 642-974 http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-4620 642-974 Mon, 29 Jun 2009 07:04:04 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-4620 Great post amreekandesi. Thanks for sharing your story. its really nice article i ever seen. Great post amreekandesi. Thanks for sharing your story. its really nice article i ever seen.

]]> By: mia http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-4582 mia Sun, 28 Jun 2009 04:31:47 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-4582 Hi, I've got my H4 visa back in 2003. The same year after a few months I applied for SSN and I,ve got my social too because i needed a driver license. After a few years i tried to apply for a work and I've got that too. Actually employer asked me to call a homeland security office so they sent information about me and they let me to work so I stayed to work for the company. Could someone tell me please, is something wrong with it? Because we applied for green card and already approved for I-140, Can be a problem for me in the future??? Hi, I’ve got my H4 visa back in 2003. The same year after a few months I applied for SSN and I,ve got my social too because i needed a driver license. After a few years i tried to apply for a work and I’ve got that too. Actually employer asked me to call a homeland security office so they sent information about me and they let me to work so I stayed to work for the company. Could someone tell me please, is something wrong with it? Because we applied for green card and already approved for I-140, Can be a problem for me in the future???

]]> By: amlistening http://amreekandesi.com/2009/01/02/h4-wives/comment-page-1/#comment-3591 amlistening Sat, 09 May 2009 22:06:17 +0000 http://amreekandesi.com/?p=737#comment-3591 @Sabera Hi, I am glad you shared your thoughts as I had been in a similar situation. I also left not only a brilliantly paying job but also a great workplace. It was a personal choice too. In fact I was strictly against a long distance relationship and thus made sure that we take care of all visa issues forehand to avoid being away from my spouse. Even after marriage, we took certain decisions in favor of staying together. For all this I respect my husband even more as he was always supportive. I remember people telling me that I was doing too much and should take things easy but i am glad I took all that effort before marriage. I had seen some friends go through this and wanted to learn from their experiences. The ride wasnt smooth at all.... even after months of planning and preparation. I would advice all Would-be-Mrs. H1Bs to prepare/study/ apply in advance. I would not discourage anyone but if you see it coming, least we can do is prepare whatever we can, for it. @Sabera
Hi, I am glad you shared your thoughts as I had been in a similar situation. I also left not only a brilliantly paying job but also a great workplace. It was a personal choice too. In fact I was strictly against a long distance relationship and thus made sure that we take care of all visa issues forehand to avoid being away from my spouse. Even after marriage, we took certain decisions in favor of staying together. For all this I respect my husband even more as he was always supportive.
I remember people telling me that I was doing too much and should take things easy but i am glad I took all that effort before marriage. I had seen some friends go through this and wanted to learn from their experiences.
The ride wasnt smooth at all…. even after months of planning and preparation. I would advice all Would-be-Mrs. H1Bs to prepare/study/ apply in advance. I would not discourage anyone but if you see it coming, least we can do is prepare whatever we can, for it.

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