Desi Confused by America
Came across this fascinating video.
This is the story of Tripthi, an Indian girl who gets married to this NRI.
When she comes to New York, her Americanized husband starts feeling uncomfortable about her FOB-iness. Then when she tries adapting to a western lifestyle, he expects a traditional Indian wife. Eventually, after being shown a middle finger, he realizes his idiocy, and all is well.
That’s the way it is with us Indian dudes. We want to live here, but marry back home.
There are many cultural differences between India and America, and it can take time for newbies to adjust to the new lifestyle. Then there are people who can lose themselves in their new lives and look down upon others who aren’t as Americanized sophisticated.
All it takes is a look back at the days when you were in those shoes, and an open heart that accepts people for who they are, regardless of whether they know how to operate a dishwasher or not.
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Open mind is the key, after all we didn’t fall to earth knowing how to open the dishwasher!
@Dinesh – That’s very true. Except for those of us who landed on top of the dishwasher, forcing it open
the video was fantastic, so funny yet so true!
Pretentious people are just the worst! I mean both sides…people who flaunt their ‘dehati’-ness as well as people who show off their new-fangled American accents!!
Am happy the movie had a happy ending
Great video. Amazing how some guys in India want ‘Americanised’ wives!
Well said. Notice, the same people will drop everything they were doing to run and help someone “phoren-returned” if s/he cannot figure out the geyser / faucet system or whatever it is in India. And conclude they’re sooooo sophisticated, that this ghati desi system is beneath them.
BTW, I don’t see any video – I think it’s my settings; I couldn’t see an audio file icon on Mahendra’s blog either.
This was fun, and I wanted more.
Agree with Dinesh above. And well said, too. Good post!
That was a great video!! Do guys like that still exist
@Chutney – Welcome to Amreekandesi!
@Roshni – Very true. Pretensions abound in our society though…some pretend to be cultured, some pretend to be rich, and our politicians pretend to actually care for the people! (Its election time…hard to resist)
@AmListening – As am i!
@Vinod – I guess so, but then those same people want Indian culture too.
@Gauri – Thanks. Good point.
Maybe your security settings dont allow embedded objects such as audio/video?
The link to this video is here
@Poonam –
@Mahendra – Thanks!
@Smitha – I guess they do. But to his credit, he didn’t take much time to realize that he wasn’t being fair.
I get her so well.. I was her(with a more supportive husband of course, thank god for small blessings). I still get the “surprised look” everytime I go home and someone there speaks in American accent while I still have my Indian accent…and still mechanically challenged by some of the “sophisticated gadgets” but I am no more embarassed to say so. And I dont feel as lonely as it used to be, cause in all that loneliness I realized nothing can beat the pleasure of my own company, its the best kind
. Conceited Arent I?
@Mysoul – Thanks for sharing your experience. I agree happiness comes from within, and we need to be able to deal with new situations.
On the other points, i too speak unaccented English, and am happy doing so. I have never had a high opinion of the obnoxious Indians who go home and try to impress people with their phoren accents.
I think more than anything else, its the loneliness. Many of my friends complain about that.
That was a nice short movie.
@Amit – The loneliness is the killer…being in a new land with nothing to do can be quite unnerving. I talked about this in an earlier post on H4 wives as well.
i really confused now…
ABCD or American-Born Confused Desi has become a polarizing factor in the Indian or Pakistani diaspora in the US, with first-generation immigrant parents and young Indians of second or latter generations.Though the term was originally coined in reference to Indian-Americans, it has been adopted by the South Asian community at large. The term “desi” comes from the word “des” (homeland) in Sanskrit and Hindi; and “desi” and is used to mean anyone from the subcontinent including India and Pakistan.Best Entertainment Sites
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